"HELP"

It must be a generational thing or maybe it's not.  Maybe it's the relationship that parents share with their children regardless of what generation they are from but I don't think so.  So let me talk this out. I was out with some friends the other night who brought their daughter along so that she could meet Nicole.  Both Italian, East Coast girls (and if you know any of those- you know there is a significance to that) around the same age.  We were talking about our blog and just sharing funny stories when our friend's daughter laughed, put up her hands and said in quotes with her hands, I know, they are just trying to "help" and the two girls started to laugh even harder.  She too has moved out and returned to the nest and is now back out.  We have other friends (and you know who you are) whose grown son has returned to the nest.  We laugh with them because they share the same experiences we do to a degree.  Don't ask them any questions because they think you are prying when really in fact you are just having a conversation.  So that makes me think it's a generational thing.  This is a new generation like none before it.  When my parents left home or we left home there was no going back.  Thus this whole back in the nest thing didn't happen.  I just want all of those adult children to know that YES WE ARE TRYING TO HELP!  Trying to help you get back on your feet, trying to help you find your way with your careers and 'find yourself', trying to help you become stronger in whatever way you need it, trying to show you the way to becoming all that we know you are capable of being, trying to give you direction, trying to give you a safe and warm (no not hellishly hot) haven to feel loved and respected when you need it most.  We love you - that is what parents do - and someday when you have children of your own, you will know the depth of the love you have for your child.  Enjoy the "help".